Of course a kid will lie to get out of trouble. I've never foreseen William being anymore noble than any kid his age. I know he won't take the blame for something he did that he knows will get him in trouble. This is something I would like to break him of. The punishment for lying is double what the punishment would be if he told the truth. I've yet to see how, if at all, this will work, as it may just lead him to find more ways to lie.
What is worse, and hurts much more in my opinion, is William's hesitancy to talk about what he has been doing with us. If he was at his grandma's, or at gymnastics, or even just at the dinner table talking about his day at daycare, usually we have to poke and prod to get more out of him than "Ummm I don't know". Usually we know he knows, especially if we ask him right after he was just doing something, and we can't figure out why. Perhaps he thinks that not saying anything will keep him from getting in trouble.
I've always hoped that William and I would have the excellent relationship I've had with my parents, that I could go to them with anything and, no matter what it was, they would do all they could to help me rather than meet what I had said with anger (on most occasions). I've tried this approach with William, but he still seems reluctant to share his thoughts.
Perhaps I just need to give the kid time. Perhaps I am too naive to think that I will ever be his confidant. Perhaps I am too ignorant to know whether or not this is normal three year old behavior. Perhaps I've been too harsh with punishments for lying so now he fears talking to me about anything. Perhaps it is I who need to change.
Whatever it is, the kid's a real blabber mouth if you ever mention Iron Man in his presence.
Abengers Assemble!
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